They only want one thing.
"You see", I tell RoB a coworker friend of mine, "The problem with men in Austin is that they only want one thing, and I'm sure you know what it is. There are very few people here who actually want the stability of a relationship. Most of them like myself want the actual relationship, but none of the baggage that comes with it. Hence why I'm still single".
This was this past Saturday, and we were having some cocktails at RoB's house. Like I said before I've been taking my notepad with me to get material to write about. Well Rob is a 29 year old who barely came out 3 years ago and is very green to the workings of a gay man, especially gay men in Austin. Unfortunately this is where I come in, RoB likes to ask me for advice about boys and such and I like to help him out as much as possible. I know the different types of guys that are out there in the city so it kind of comes easy to me. On top of all that RoB was in a long term relationship for awhile so this makes him more naive to how things work.
I was outside smoking and he had just told me(in length) about a relationship or lack there of with a friend of his who we will call Phillip. You see RoB has been trying for the last two months to have a relationship with Phillip but he's only interested in one thing, and you know what it is. They have been out together on several occassions where Phillip has arrived at the club with RoB and left with one stranger or another. I kept calling Phillip a slut much to RoB's disapproval. So I won't do that again(or wait did I do it again?).
I told RoB that he should give up on Phillip and be his friend, but ever since an incident that I'm not allowed to talk about occured Phillip has been acting oddly towards RoB, as in he wants more than a friendship now. This is very preculiar because RoB recently started dating someone new. I honestly think RoB should just be Phillip's friend and let him dig his own grave because he deserves it.
Hopefully he will take my advice.
On a much lighter note I have this friend named Ricky or Waterboy(a nickname Jaime and I gave him a long time ago). Well he and Ricky are fraternity brothers(they were both part of the same frat just different times) and they have hooked up a couple of times, the funny part was when they were about to hook up, Ricky reminds RoB of the frat's motto "A brother has to help a brother out".
and boy did they.
posted by Velvetsaje at 8/29/2005 07:40:00 PM
4 Comments:
but is it the guys in austin or the places you go to meet guys in austin. see in places like dallas or new york or los angeles there are just more venues with which a gay man can meet a gay man outside the bar atmosphere; coffee shops, concerts, gatherings, blah blah blah, and so it's simplier and easier to meet other gay men who are also looking for what you are looking for, because at any given time, is it not true that most guys at oil can harry's at midnight on a friday are not looking for a relationship. maybe before ragging on the same 25 percent of gay men of austin that are always out at the bars (what i mean is that the same 25% of gay men population in austin are the same 25% you see out at the bars every weekend, they never change) you should try other methods of meeting gay men. no i don't mean hanging out with the same friends and meeting thier friends, and no i don't mean being social and going to parties and hoping to meet some one there, instead try other venues. spend more time at bookstores, let the universe bring them to you. "the web" as you call it will never stop coming back to itself if you don't try something different. you've taken up biking, reading, and writing. look for writing work shops for gay men and women, look for gay biking groups, go to a gay book reading. ideas are endless.
but don't expect to find a relationship when you're out on a friday night drunk watching the tweakers, trippers, and alcoholics trying to pick up play for the night.
think about andrew. we used to make so much fun of him for having a new man every week and dating so much and being taken out to dinners 4 times a week but what was he really doing? he was putting himself out there and trying to meet people, lots of people to see if something stuck. the fact that they were always buying him dinner is just testament to how nice and how much people really liked his personality.
uh, you may want to delete all that spam. and go to "blog settings: comments: turn on word verification"
you see I don't go out nearly as much as I used to and you know that. Gurl you remember the days of going out monday thru friday? Yea those were some good times, my liver says hi. But honestly if I do go out it's like once a week and its every so often. I just can't see myself going to gay book readings, etc, because there are so many trolls there and while their pockets may be deep, I'm not that kind of guy. I mean I could have had that with Tom if I wanted and I didn't. I really don't mind being single at all even though I complain about it all the time, I enjoy my solitude and freedom to do whatever I want. As far as Andrew is concerned; I will not and I repeat will not get online on such websites as gay.com to meet someone to take me to dinner. Remember I told you about that time I was talking to him and I was all, "I'm so hungry and broke" and he was like, "get online and find someone to take you to dinner that's what I do." Granted I love Andrew and I miss our friendship but I refuse to prostitute myself like that. If I'm meant to be with anyone they will come to me, whether it be at Oilcan's, Town Lake or hell even work. They will come to me. And WTF is up with people trying to pimp their sites on my blog?!? Although I do like the 'Great Job' parts of their posts, it just feels like Spam to me.
ummmmm....Spam....heart attack anyone?
Post a Comment
<< Home